Or guide, instructor, mentor, etc. I really dont care what word you use to make yourself feel less…subservient .
This will be a continuation in some sense of my last entry. Commitment isnt the only thing lacking. People dont know the obligation, responsibility, or even what it means to be a student under someone.
I will use martial arts as an example seeing as I have just begun a new one.
I dont know Brazilian jiu-jitsu, well, I know a little, as I have been there five months, but I know that I am woefully ignorant of the art as a whole. How, you ask? Simple, I get tapped out, choked out, and submitted on a very regular basis(as I am commited, haha.) There is not arguing against empirical evidence of your ignorance.
I sought a…dare I use the word? Master, because I knew this. I am not new to martial arts by any stretch. Still, there are aspects of them that I have not even scratched the surface on, and I am more than honest enough with myself to admit when I need to seek instruction.
In doing so, in becoming a student, you have yo give up a portion of your decision making, not all, do not follow anyone, or anything blindly, however I in a a very real sense have given over a portion of my individuality to be molded ( with my help of course) to my instructor.
You see, he has knowledge I do not, and to gain that knowledge, to harness it and use it as my own, I have to let him guide me in what to do. Doesnt really matter what I think, until I am the one tapping him out, its obvious what I “think” isnt really as good as what he “knows”.
The Dark path is very individualistic, and that is a good thing, however when it comes to being a student, I have noticed an inability to surrender part of oneself to the guide, and in those cases it has been done(Miles, a fellow Dark practitioner, has shown this to be true) the results have been very positive.
However, most students, at every turn, do not show firstly, the commitment necessary, but past that, the willingness to be a student, to put trust in the guide that they well, can guide.
I know, trust in the Dark side? Well certainly. Did not Zannah trust that Bane could make her a Lord of the Sith? Did she not study his lessons,etc, take his advice on which direction to focus her talents?
Trust, as I am putting it is not in the whole of the person, but at least in ones abilities, as I do my instructors( as I said, I cannot really argue at this point, he can kick my ass, as he has shown, pretty much at will.) Without this trust in the guide that they know where they are going, well, the student will simply not follow.
Of course there is also the simple fact that people cannot be students because it chafed to be under someone elses thumb. To which I gladly state, man the fuck up and get the sand out of your vagina. Consider it a sacrifice for your goals if you must, but an individual must be willing to put in the work, trust, and surrender a bit to make true gains. Its as simple as that, if you cant, you dont progress.
So instead, we have students in the Dark path that cant commit, and cannot truly enter the students realm. One where they do not have complete control, however, if you thought you were up to that task, of complete control, what the fuck are you seeking out a master,guide, mentor, etc for in the first place?
The relationship between master and apprentice is one of trust, trust at least in the aspect that the student trusts the master has what the student does not, but can give it to them. The Master, will give the student what they are trying to achieve to the best of there abilities. Of course, the Master is trusting that the Apprentice will commit to the relationship, and be willing to share there a portion of there decision making, of there individuality to the master to help in the molding.
Its something that is created together, it is a collaboration to forge an individual in a crucible that will help them realize there maximum potential.
Grow up, and realize that being an individual is not a given, you have to earn it, work for it, make it happen. Realize also that becoming an individual, reaching that stage, realizing your potential is something you cant do alone.
Solus sum my ass. Thats just an excuse to not have get out of your comfort zone.